Chicken Soup for the Soul

Love yourself

2009-04-18T04:45:00.000-07:00

做女人一定要经得起谎言,受得起敷衍,忍得住欺骗,忘得了诺言,放下一切,最后用笑来伪装掉下的眼泪!
花,可以开两次;茶,可以品三盏;人,一旦错过,就是永远!

Ask The Right Question

2009-04-17T17:43:00.000-07:00

Chapter 1- approciately ask questions,恰如其分地提问

Can just let it be?

2009-04-17T16:53:00.000-07:00

If our life can just let it be? in some situation,no,everyone has separate willings.

Lurking-Teledrama view

2009-04-09T06:45:00.000-07:00

Lurking, a spy in nationalist party for communist party.

1-Faith

2-If men will think more,they will act less

3-Have a mature plan,and to be considerate.

Central Station- film view

2009-04-09T05:48:00.000-07:00

Redemption,a new word for me,it seams far away from me.

Brazil,a country belonging to the third world,undeveloped areas,I don't want dream about,poor,disorder,unemotional person,illiterate,no highways.

The spinster,a professional letter writer,looking for love,and don't like dressing up,full of wrinkles,rouge.

The boy,nine(9) years older,with treacherous action,horrible.

Time makes the heart grow fonder.

How to forget it

2009-03-29T04:38:00.000-07:00

Time cures all things.Forget all about it and look to the future; you can't put the clock back.Don't cry over spilt milk.

Can erode all except tears is time, come and pass the emotion with time, The longer time is, the lighter the conflict is, tea seemed to dilute constantly.

I find myself just filling my time.The busier,the better.How to make yourself be busy?
to recharge yoursefl with knowledge at your spare time,and try to complete your annual target.
So what you should do now is to do,instead of thinking.

I want to live a simple life

2009-03-14T20:32:00.001-07:00

I am exhausted,why so ? I couldn't find the power of persuing something,even don't know what I want?All of a sudden,I just want to live a simple life,not expect too much.

Perhaps I need to adjust myself in time,rest and work.

I am wrong,everything has two aspects,one is good ,another is bad,it depends on your view.everytime I just don't know what I am doing wrong?pardon all but yourself,I ever take this sayings as my motto,but I find that it is too tired,after all,every man has his faults.

I just want to live a simple life,really,not so complex and hard.I aslo just want to get the work done properly,there is nothing else.

Never give up,you just have to be yourself.-平平淡淡才是真！

It is not so easy to earn money

2009-02-20T03:19:00.002-08:00

Feelings about the movie of "ugly betty"

2009-02-16T05:04:00.000-08:00

Ugly betty-season one
episode 1:
1-Have a dream

It is important to follow your dream and what is in your heart.Dream is good,if you want make your dream come true,what will it be?

Betty dreams of one day working for a magazine,as she said ,magazine is her passion.Because of her appearance ,her sister hilda sugguested her to explore other options.and his father said that this career is betty's dream.

All of a sudden,I feel the power of dream deeply,it could activate your energy.what the hell is my dream?If I am working for my dream,if I like the job in hand?Iam not sure,but it is at least true that dream is very powerful and you must follow your own dream,never give up!
One of my dream is to build a house in my native place this year,and I wish to make this dream come true this year.
Another dream is to go abroad,for I never step abroad before.

2-Anything is possible
Only if you have a dream,anything will turn into reality,so having a dream is the first stepping-stone on the path to success.No matter what has happened to you in the course of your work,you should never give up,even you are subjected to indignity and humiliation.

3-Support from family or friends

Review your experience regularly

2009-02-06T03:27:00.000-08:00

经常做总结，让经历升值为经验。经历不值钱，经验才值钱。

Think before you act

2009-01-31T18:31:00.000-08:00

When you are hesitant about something,especially there are two choices for you,you should be more cautious.
Two lessons:
1-EXW and FOB
2-X and √

Clear your target

2009-01-22T05:03:00.000-08:00

Today I went to the cross road in Jiaojiang District for buying a new coat,after that

Motto

2009-01-21T04:02:00.000-08:00

1-Who are you? Approch youself is the first step to the world.When you face the temptation or choices,you might as well ask youself"who are you?".

Wedding

2009-01-21T03:36:00.000-08:00

Today I went with my BF to attend my bf's colleague wedding,the wedding was held in his home.It seems that I have not attend the wedding for a long time.In my memory,I am enjoying myself in others'wedding,for there is some delicious to eat,like candy,I think most of people like it,while now I am no longer enjoying it any more for I am no longer a child,I have grown up and have to afford necessary responsibility.

Today I get the bonus ,1500yuan, All of a sudden,I feel bitterly cold,and the words of manager was a hit at me,this is what I do in 2008 year?it is extremely funny.My whole year work even cann't match up to 5 months work?What the hell can I do next?

Am I incapable?please remember that it is no use sitting there crying,you have to face the failure,you know,find the root of this matter and be maturer in the next year.

The poor is always thinking thing,but the rich is always doing thing,you cann't change the world or others but yourself,so the first step is to reflect upon youself and come on,look on both sides of a shield.

Make a wish-2009

2009-01-19T21:44:00.000-08:00

Year 2009,24-year-old

1-To build a house in my native place.

2-Go abroad.-Paris,France.-Completed.

3-Be proficient in English language.

4-Learn yoga in summer.

Good timing

2009-01-18T18:23:00.000-08:00

Today I feel deeply the importance of time. I went to the finance department this morning for submitting an expense account,while were refused because they were at busy hour,so I have been told to wait several days more.

When I came back to my own seat,this thing causes me to think a lot.People often say that good timing, geographical convenience and good human relations are all very vital to our life and work,that's true.

How can I overcome these obstacles?Perhapes to face it is the only choice that I have.Whatever you are doing,you should choose a good timing to do it ,then everything will go smoothly.So from now on ,never to interrupt others when they are at busy hour,it is vital to follow this principle at all times.

New view instead of new field

2009-01-16T00:17:00.001-08:00

Maybe what you need is not a new field but a new view,try another perspective.

Recently,I always think one question,it seems that there are some doubt about my suitability for the job,without any passion.why?what choice do I have,I should start to be serious about this thing,I am over 23,already advanced in years,but I feel as if I get nothing.

If I should change another field or try another perspective?Maybe I should review the job ,and carefully analyze it,to find out if I can gain my pursuits from there.
To tell the truth,I really don't want to give up the english language,it is one of my interest,and I wish to have a fine command of this language,and the words stream from my mouth in a torrent.
and make myself master of this language someday,rather than half -know,perhapes this is the only reason that I remain in this place.

Could it be that the english is my only goal here?No, absolutely not!So,what is it for again?Money?yeah,maybe,so it will be great if I can get pay for doing whatever I want,now the question is ,I cann't get both of them so far.I wonder if the english tour guide is a good job?with high income?it really helps to train a person's communication skills,and you will be very sociable in the future,while some people says that tour guide depends on youth to make a living,but is it really true,when I am no longer young,then what can Ido ,to be an offical in the tourist bureau?working in an administrative position?but I am not really the administrative type.

If I remain in the current field,what is my direction of development? Maybe be more familar with this industry,and get more orders from foreign businessmen,of course,my income is aslo increased significantly,at the same time,both my spoken english and written english are improved considerably.Most of people says that the older the salesman,the greater demand.After all ,the older the wiser.
I admit that I have learnt a lot from one year's work,and maturer than before,the way I am walking now is right or not?tired,bored,what on earth is I want?

Everything has a plan,PDCA-plan,do,check,action. Now what you have to do is to list the choices that you can choose,and to choose then plan,do ,check and action.

Come on!

Fish in the air

2009-01-12T00:56:00.000-08:00

Grasp the shadow and let go the substance ,fish in the air,many idoms express the result of wrong direction,I have today deeply touched.

How regretfull I am,but it is no use.

Get the result but don't know why

2009-01-08T16:18:00.000-08:00

As the old saying goes:"get the result and aslp know why",until now I feel it resonable.

Responsibility

2009-01-08T02:59:00.000-08:00

Gradually,I deeply realize the meaning of responsibility,I am extremely regretful,but it is no use crying over spilt milk.

What can I do ？Maybe I only can console myself.

As one story says,you have two choices.

one is the tax can be rebated ,another is the tax cann't be rebated.If the result is the first one ,you don't need to worry at all.

If the tax cann't be rebated,there is still two choices.One is you have to sustain the losses,another is that you will be fired.If the result is the first,while you are unable to pay,only be borned by the company,and aslo you have to afford within your ability,if so ,you have no option but to reflect upon your mistakes and draw a lesson from this thing,be more careful in the future,you will be more mature hereafter.

If you will be fired ,there is also two options,one is you will find a better job than the present job,another is you became a job-waiting people.It is a good thing to find a better job,as the saying goes,behind bad luck comes good luck.

If you are unempolyed ,you have two choices as well,you have found yourself in the period of job-waiting,and know what is you want and who you want to be,and finally became a free-lance,another is you lose your ways and don't know what to do.

If you are a free-lance ,you will get rid of the restriction of work,and get free,and live in yourself world,just do whatever you like.

If you have lost your ways and don't know what to do ,then there is still two choices for you.one is to take what comes and be contented,another is in a rock-bottom despair.

Cann't say that is is wrong that make the best of it?

if you have touched the depth of despair ,your heart has already been numbled ,lacking of worry or apprehensiveness.

So what 's the worry?Remember,look on both sides of the shield forever.

Chilliness

2009-01-06T20:56:00.000-08:00

Today the weather is a little cold,what I need on earth?As counted,I have worked for two years.
What have I earned in the end?Looking back to that time when I was just graduated from school,I am very curious and open about everything new,because of innocent and childlike.

Now I admit that I am more mature than before,while what I want to learn or what I am going after?

What you have done should be informed to others

2009-01-05T21:24:00.001-08:00

All of a sudden,I deeply relized that timely communication is fairly important,so as to reduce unnecessay waste,such as time or energy.
Therefore, the ability of anticipate is very important,you should think of it prior to others.

In a word,
1-Effective communication,what you have done and what you will do should be informed to others.
2-A of the A.R.G,A is equal to anticipate,thinking of it prior to others.

How to develop your observation

2009-01-02T19:04:00.000-08:00

Today,I find that the observation is very important in the process of marketing.

You should know that why people act like this and how to treat with it. Use your head,and don't act in an off-hand way.

So what you need to do next is to develop your observation.But how?it is a question.

Example1:

Why the customer doesn't reply you and answer your question?

Look back on your question,you will find all these questions are very childish,and will reflect that you are not very professional,you should reflect upon yourself.

So in the new year,one of my goal is to develop a good observation,which can help you to sell.

The truth-less is more

2009-01-01T20:42:00.000-08:00

Beauty doesn't need too much,less is more.Simple often bring more enjoyment to people.

The truth-share

2009-01-01T20:23:00.000-08:00

Sharing with others is the happiest thing.Eating foods with others ,you will find that the food is very delicious.

To be steady

2008-12-29T03:13:00.000-08:00

In the coming new year,suddenly I find that I cann't be so ignorant and innocent any more ,two much time I have wasted.

In the next year,I will be factual,responsibility when doing man or doing things.

Do remember,you have set the goal of 2009,and next is try your best to accomplish it.

Annual Summary for 2008

2008-12-24T00:29:00.000-08:00

Time flies so quickly,another year will pass.

What I have learnt in this year?

What I have gone through in the year?

What I have achieve in this year?

I have worked in this company for more than one year,and I am gradually familar with the company's operating system and management philosophy,so firstly to conclude myself business:

One.Professional ability

1-I have some understanding of the company and its products,and gradually familiar with the company's products and various specifications,and also know the basic production flow of mould,and the possible issues will occur in every steps.

2-I have got some idea of the SMC mould market,the SMC mould is widely applied in automotive parts,electrical box,sanitary,antenna and so on.So the prospect is cheerful,the possiblity of developing new markets is very high.

3-I have grasped basic business skill,to develop market on free B2B website,and gradually grasp the skills of negotiaion,be a consultant of sales skills,everything starts from customers.We should continously ask in the email,phone and visit ,getting their demands from the answers,then we will acheive maximum result with little effort.For example,if the customer needs high quality product,you can quote a better product to him,a little expensive is ok;on the contrary,it the customer wants to purchase cheap product,your quotation shouldn't be too high,or the opportunity will be lost.In fact ,business can be simplied as "know or activate the demands，and to meet the needs"

Two.Personal Quality

1. Honesty

honest and reliable ,win the trust from client.

2.Passion

Only if you have a passion for this job,you will involve yourself in your career,especially foregin business,because foreign trade is a long process.

3.Patient

In this industry,Maybe it will take half a year or one year to develop a new customer ,or even longer.So,in this long process,you should be patient when you still don't have order but your colleague has , rainbow comes after a storm.

4.Self-confident

Generally speaking,there are many customer ,but there is only some customers who give your orders.So,maybe in morst of the time ,salesman are doing idle work,but you should be self -confident,many potential customers needs to be real customer in a very long time,strong self-confidence is needed if you want to be excellent in the business.

At present,with production capacity to be enlarged ,the sale also will grow up,be active in domestic market,for the foreign trade just start,many places needs to be developed.The following is what I need to do in the furture work and related requirements.

How to learn english well

2008-12-21T23:47:00.001-08:00

To learn English well one has to learn to think in English at every turn.

All matters whether important or trivial

2008-12-21T23:10:00.000-08:00

All events ,however small,you should be responsible for details,as it is written in the book of "success or failure depends on details".

Today I have made two mistakes,very silly mistakes.One is that I look on year of 2008 as 2009 in the order,another is that I have copied the wrong information to others but it is not what I intended.Although these two mistakes don't cause much damage,I am ashamed of my fault and feel uneasy,I often give people a carless impression,and it is time that I reflect upon my carlessness.

Why I always make mistakes? the main cause has the following aspects:
1-Not focus on what I am doing.
2-Not self-check when getting something done,especially not check the critical point,such as sum,qty and other main points of a quotation or a sales confirmation.

So in order to overcome this shortcoming,what I should do next?
1-When working,you should concentrate and not allow yourself to be distracted.
2-Get into the habit of self-check with thinking when one action is performed,check twice at least.

Ready to go ,come on!!!

you needn't worry

2008-12-15T20:41:00.000-08:00

You needn't worry about the problem which can be solved,and aslo no need to worry if cann't be solved.
There are two choices for you:
Once upon a time ,there was a young man who is in the military age,the result was to be marine corps,which was the most hardest armed branches.

The young man was in a pensive mood,almost cared neither for food nor drink.His sapiential grandfather began to enlighten grandson.

Old grandfather said :" boy ,you don't need to worry actually,when you are became the member of marine corps,you have two chances in the troops;one is inside job ,another is outside job,if you are assigned to the office work,then there is no need to worry."

The young man asked:"if i am assigned to the outside work,and then ?"

Old grandfather said :"aslo two chances,one is in this island,another is assigned to offshore island."

The young man asked:"if i am assigned to the offshore island,what then?"

Old grandfather said :"still two chances,one is behind the lines ,anther is foward.All in all ,it is very easy in the rear area.

The young man asked again:"if i am assigned to the forefront ,what then?"

Old grandfather said:"there are still two chances left for you,one is guard ,retire from arm safely,another is have a accident."
The young man asked:"if meet a accident,what then?"
Old grandfather said:"there are two chances as well,one is fleshwound,and are send back to this island,another is severe injuries ,maybe incurable."
This is the most terrible thing, the young man asked with a trembling voice:"if i met the latter?"

Old grand father laughed and said:"you are already died,there is no need to worry at all,but i will be worry,the old with white-hair was left by the dead young,that is not very good."

What life owns is different choices,it depends on you how to look at these numberous choices,try to look on both sides of one thing every coin has two sides or more,you will find that when everything is clear ,the inward fear will be reduced to zero.

You also have two choices now,
one is share this letter with others ,another is introspection and intake it.

The buck stops here

2008-12-15T00:33:00.000-08:00

Ultimately,I have understood this principle:let the matter drop,call it a day!
I always pass the buck to others ever before,and never try to solve the problem.

What a pity

2008-12-12T00:50:00.000-08:00

What a pity it is I hold back from greeting him.

Maybe it is not a polite way,or I am too shy,but after all,I think I should step forward to shake hands with him.

It is necessary for a businessman,not just wait.Stop imaging ,be postistive.

Don't ask or answer immediately

2008-12-07T22:04:00.000-08:00

Before answer one's question,you should think about this question again and again,then ask or reply carefully.

For example:
Eg 1.About the metal shims,you should conclude that maybe you are not very clear about this thing and you should tell him that I am not very clear about what you say ,maybe you can get answer from others,give him a choice, people always don't like a silly or stupid.

Basic people skills

2008-12-05T22:49:00.000-08:00

成功是对一个有价值的梦想的逐步实现的过程，成功远远不止是金钱，它与人际关系息息相关。如果没有强大、愉快、丰富的人际关系。世界上所有金钱都不足以缓解痛苦。
Contents:
1-Employ a wide range of skills in conversation.
Remember that only talk to them about their things.
FORM:
Family
Occupation=job or work
Recreation=entertainment
Money,eg:where you want to travel?

When you talk of themself,they will respect you right away.Most of us don't get well with others ,because we always think and talk about ourselves.

2-We should show respect for everybody.
a.Learn to listen very carefully
b.Not to cut in on the conversation
c.Ask subjects which they are interested in.
d.To talk together in a friendly,leisurely way.

Looks best to appear
a.put a stop to untidy.
b.in a good mood and appearance.

praise peope:the power of highly praise.
a.when you meet with stangers,making eye-contact with him and smiling him.
b.develop a good habit of shaking hands.
c.pay attention to your communication skills ,especially electrommunication skills,what you build is not only business,but aslo interpersonal relationship.
d.appreciation is the most sincere generous.
e.remember other's name and use it.
f.keep your financial credit in good condition.
g.understand and appreciate different personalities of people.the more you understand others,the happier you will feel,and you will have a solid foundation for you to improve your communication skills.

how to win respect?the first step is to respect others first,the more you respect others,the more others will respect you.self-esteem is the bottom line,everyone is special.

Gossip is a fearful thing

2008-12-04T23:54:00.000-08:00

Today I fully understand this principle,no matter where you are ,no matter who you talk with,pay attention to what you say.

Shut your mouth!

Unitl now,I realize the art of speech,pay attention to our speech and speak well as follows:
An urgent matter ,which needs to speak slowly;
A major event,which needs to speak clearly;
A slight matter,which needs to speak humorously;

Speak carefully about doing things of which you are not sure;
Stop your nonsense about something that hasn't happened yet;
Don't speak carelessly about anythings that you are unable to do ;
You cann't say what that does harm to others.

For nuisance, concerning self with facts and not with individuals;
Talking about something nice on the proper occasion;
Not tell everyone you meet about sad things;

Speak carefully about other people's affairs;
Listen to your heart when speaking about your business;

Current thing ,just do it;
Tomorrow thing,just talk about it tomorrow;

If you have any dissatisfaction with me,be sure to tell me ,because I am eager to listening.

16 Things

2008-12-04T21:11:00.000-08:00

So here are 16 things

1. The 80/20 rule.
This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. The 80/20 rule – also known as The Pareto Principle – basically says that 80 percent of the value you will receive will come from 20 percent of your activities.
So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think.
You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things.
And if you do that you will have more time and energy to spend on those things that really brings your value, happiness, fulfilment and so on.

2. Parkinson’s Law.
You can do things quicker than you think. This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance, if you say to yourself that you’ll come up with a solution within a week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you’ll spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution.
So focus your time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.
The result may not be exactly as perfect as if you had spent a week on the task, but as mentioned in the previous point, 80 percent of the value will come from 20 percent of the activities anyway. Or you may wind up with a better result because you haven’t overcomplicated or overpolished things. This will help you to get things done faster, to improve your ability to focus and give you more free time where you can totally focus on what’s in front of you instead of having some looming task creating stress in the back of your mind.

3. Batching.
Boring or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch them. This means that you do them all in row. You will be able to do them quicker because there is less “start-up time” compared to if you spread them out. And when you are batching you become fully engaged in the tasks and more focused.
A batch of things to do in an hour today may look like this: Clean your desk / answer today’s emails / do the dishes / make three calls / write a grocery shopping list for tomorrow.

4. First, give value. Then, get value. Not the other way around.
This is a bit of a counter-intuitive thing. There is often an idea that someone should give us something or do something for us before we give back. The problem is just that a lot of people think that way. And so far less than possible is given either way.
If you want to increase the value you receive (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.) you have to increase the value you give. Because over time you pretty much get what you give. It would perhaps be nice to get something for nothing. But that seldom happens.

5. Be proactive. Not reactive.
This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done. You could sit and wait and hope for someone else to do something. And that happens pretty often, but it can take a lot of time before it happens.
A more useful and beneficial way is to be proactive, to simply be the one to take the first practical action and get the ball rolling. This not only saves you a lot of waiting, but is also more pleasurable since you feel like you have the power over your life. Instead of feeling like you are run by a bunch of random outside forces.

6. Mistakes and failures are good.
When you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow a bit older, you learn from - for example - school to not make mistakes. And you try less and less things.
This may cause you to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of waiting for someone else to do something. I mean, what if you actually tried something and failed? Perhaps people would laugh at you?
Perhaps they would. But when you experience that you soon realize that it is seldom the end of the world. And a lot of the time people don’t care that much. They have their own challenges and lives to worry about.
And success in life often comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent.
When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. Bruise a knee and cry a bit. But you get up, brush yourself off and get on the saddle again. And eventually you learn how to ride a bike. If you can just reconnect to your 5 year old self and do things that way - instead of giving up after a try/failure or two as grown-ups often do – you would probably experience a lot more interesting things, learn valuable lessons and have quite a bit more success.

7. Don’t beat yourself up.
Why do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time. It’s best to try to drop this habit as much as you can.

8. Assume rapport.
Meeting new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward conversation.
The best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.
This works surprisingly well. You can read more about it in How to Have Less Awkward Conversations: Assuming Rapport.

9. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.
I learned about the organs and the inner workings of the body in class but nobody told me about the reticular activation system. And that’s a shame, because this is one of the most powerful things you can learn about. What this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much always helps you to find what you are looking for.
So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.
Setting goals and reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s important and to help you take action that will move your closer to toward where you want to go. Another way is just to use external reminders such as pieces of paper where you can, for instance, write down a few things from this post like “Give value” or “Assume rapport”. And then you can put those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror etc.

10. Your attitude changes your reality.
We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.
But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. When you for instance use a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”.
When you change you attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.
This is of course very similar to the previous tip but I wanted to give this one some space. Because changing your attitude can create an insane change in your world. It might not look like it if you just think about it though. Pessimism might seem like realism. But that is mostly because your R.A.S is tuned into seeing all the negative things you want to see. And that makes you “right” a lot of the time. And perhaps that is what you want. On the other hand, there are more fun things than being right all the time.
If you try changing your attitude for real – instead of analysing such a concept in your mind - you’ll be surprised.
You may want to read more about this topic in Take the Positivity Challenge!

11. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.
Sure, I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have practised gratitude more. It is also a good tool for keeping your attitude up and focusing on the right things. And to make other people happy. Which tends to make you even happier, since emotions are contagious.

12. Don’t compare yourself to others.
The ego wants to compare. It wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new bike!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard to not compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Bill has bought an even nicer bike!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others you let the world around control how you feel about yourself. It always becomes a rollercoaster of emotions.
A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power and positive feelings.

13. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
This is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.

14. Don’t take things too seriously.
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in things. But most of the things you worry about never come into reality. And what may seem like a big problem right now you may not even remember in three years.
Taking yourself, your thoughts and your emotions too seriously often just seems to lead to more unnecessary suffering. So relax a little more and lighten up a bit. It can do wonders for your mood and as an extension of that; your life.

15. Write everything down.
If your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good way to keep your focus on what you want. Read more about it in Why You Should Write Things Down.

16. There are opportunities in just about every experience.
In pretty much any experience there are always things that you can learn from it and things within the experience that can help you to grow. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that another success could never teach you.
Whenever you have a “negative experience” ask yourself: where is the opportunity in this? What is good about this situation? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences.

Lesson -December (2008)

2008-11-30T17:36:00.000-08:00

Lesson1

How to overcome the shortcoming of carlessness?
1-Make and check Export documents

2-Check contract or order

3-Regulate your work

4-Examine your work when finished

5-Take lessons from your fault

Lesson2

How to let others remember your thing?

1-Give a paper

2-Repeat twice

Lesson3

How to eat food politely?

Lesson4

Don't be so curious,as for you,it is not necessary to know everything.

Lesson2

Do your work with religious care,and

Chicken Soup for the soul - Rules for being human

2008-11-26T19:01:00.000-08:00

RULES FOR BEING HUMAN

1. You will receive a bodyYou may likeit or hate it,but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around

2. You will learn lessonsYou are enrolled in a full time informal scholl called Life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. you may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessonsGrowth is a process of trial and error.Experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works"

4. A lesson is repeated until learnedA lesson will be presenterd to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you haev learned it you go on to the next lesson

5. Learning lessons does not endThere is nopart of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6. There is "no better"than "here"Where your "there" has become a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here"

7. Others are merely mirrors of youYou cannot love or hate something about another personunless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself

8. What you make of your life is up to youYou have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. the choice is yours

9. Your answers lie inside youThe answers to Life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look,listen and trust.

10. You will forget this.

WK48-《Chicken soup for the soul》

2008-11-25T16:01:00.000-08:00

Nov 26th,2008

One at a time

You cann't change the world ,but you can start with yourself.Sometimes I find that so many new words are too difficult to memorize,but now I think it is easy to recite one new words,so just make a difference to that one,then you can make a great progress.

Love the Job

2008-11-25T00:47:00.000-08:00

From 《Chicken Soup》

Every day we hear about people making radical career changes. The opportunities exist, but will all these changes make us any happier once we get there? Maybe the question is not "How can I get the job I'll love?", but "How can I love the job I have?" Following are four practical steps towards coming to terms with why you do what you're doing. Take some time to think about it, and you might be surprised by what you find.

1. Realize that your job does not define you, but how you do it does. There's a lot to be said for attitude, more than will fit here. Any job can be done well, done with compassion, done with care. Your attitude at work and the way you treat people --- even your mood --- does not go unnoticed. They have a profound influence on the people you work with. There are times when you can't control your situation, but you can always choose how you live in it.

2. Stop focusing on the money. Money will never be enough so stop using it (or the lack of it) as an excuse. Whatever you are bringing home on the 15th and 30th, there are always going to be things you could do or would do if you had more. Try taking tracking every penny you spend in a week. Seeing where your money is really going can help you to refocus your spending towards the things you really want. Getting paid is only one small part of what you do, your work has to be more than just a paycheck to be fulfilling.

____________________________________________________________________ Impressions of after-reading:I don't know what I really want until today.In the beginning ,I always thought that i am persuing for money in my life,but I am wrong.What I want is in no one's debt,including my parents,my sister,my relative,my friends and my BF as well.
After all,it is my duty which I cann't evade.Sometimes ,I feel very happy when undertaking the responsibility,which is hard to speak,maybe I only find my individual value from there,I wonder.
When i have repayed a debt for my parents or paid for my sister's school tuition,senses of achievement and pride arising spontaneously,that was the feeling of being approved and affirmed.
I sincerely wish myself to undertake more,thanks for the people who give me duty and who give me oppotunity to have the ability to undertake the duty,my boss,my colleague.I want to be a repsonsible person in the furture instead of evading or complaining life ,there is no use in grumbling.

3. Find the significance in what you do. This may require you to think big, but it can be done. Take some time to really think about what you do. Do you provide an essential service? Do you get to see the finished product? Do you give direction that gets things done? Then ask yourself "how is this job done differently because I am doing it?" Perspective plays a huge role in personal satisfaction and sense of well being. Try to remember why you took the job in the first place. If it was only going to be "for now" are you actively looking for other work?

4. Dare to ask yourself if it's worth it. If you can't find the part of your job that you like, or if you can see yourself turning into the person you said you would never be, consider the reasons. It may not be a new job that you need, just a new direction. Do you like the person you are doing this job? If not, are there changes you can make to the way you do your job or is the job itself the problem? Do you need to be doing a different position within the same company? Are additional responsibilities taking you away from the work you were hired to do? Maybe all that's needed is some refocusing. Learn to say "no". As much as you can choose the things you spend your time on, don't attend events or meetings only because everyone expects it.
Asking yourself why you do your job doesn't mean you're dissatisfied, just self-aware. This awareness can lead to greater job satisfaction, increased sense of well being and a little more control over what you do, rather than just "going along for the ride". For some, it may be time for a change — if so, don't be afraid of it. Change isn't necessarily bad, it's just different. For the rest of us, take a look around, you may find you've got a great view.

Take a look at your life. How would you describe it? Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it's all of the above at times. There are things we dream of doing one day, there are things we wish we could forget. In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new. What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

How to sell yourself

2008-11-24T18:46:00.000-08:00

Believe in Yourself
You can’t effectively sell yourself if you don’t value who you are. You must have confidence in your abilities. Maintaining a high level of integrity and a high quality of work will help keep you self-assured. You need to feel proud of your actions so don’t do things that will undermine your efforts. Focus on building your confidence and being the person you want to be.

Share Your Knowledge
Knowledge is a valuable resource and it can make anyone look more attractive. Sell your skills by sharing your knowledge. Be willing to teach others what you know. This will not only help them, it will demonstrate your abilities at the same time. A win/win!

Share Your Experiences
Tell your story. People are drawn to those who are willing to open up and share their experiences. It will help you build strong connections with others. Remember that you are unique and there is value to be shared.

Be Authentic
Trust is a critical part of selling yourself. No one values dishonesty. Be genuine in your interactions with others and work to develop honest communication. The truth will earn respect and trust.

Present Yourself Professionally
Everything you do and say creates an image. You always want to present yourself with professionalism. This includes everything from your appearance to how you speak and how you shake hands. It’s always best to play it safe and follow formal business etiquette. Though things have relaxed quite a bit in most professional environments, formality is never viewed as unprofessional. When attempting to sell yourself, it can be a big added bonus.
Be Positive
Show positivity in your interactions with others. Smile, show interest and be enthusiastic. Don’t complain, engage in gossip or negative conversation. Keeping yourself upbeat will draw people to you.
Selling yourself is all about showing others who you are. The trick is to present yourself in the best possible light.

Be Active

2008-11-23T21:39:00.000-08:00

I cann't to await my doom during the depression.

I learnt above theory from today's small thing.Every profession produces its own topmost master.So what I should to do is to became the topmost master in the compounds field which I stay now.Do a little bit of work as much as possible so that you can learn more.No pains,no gains.

Dry shoes won't catch fish.Remember that Whatever you do is just in order to sell it.

Knowledge and Common sense

2008-11-15T00:52:00.000-08:00

Knowledge without common sense counts for nothing.
Today I read a news from qq.com,the news tells that four girls jumped from the sixth floor of Shanghai commercial college 's domitary for there was a fire.
I am deeply shocked by this news and aslo cause me to think a lot.
In fact,after only ten minutes when there was a fire,the firemen have arrived at the scene.but all four girls were jumped in four minutes later,not use timely ways to save themselves.lacking of common sense or knowledge?
So knowledge without common sense counts for nothing ,it is a pity that the four girls were died so young.

A.R.G

2008-11-13T00:41:00.000-08:00

what is the meaning of A.R.G.
A = Anticipate
R= Research
G=Gumption
I learn it from the movie of "ugly betty",really very reasonable in our daily work.
No matter what has happened when we are working ,we should look on both sides of a shield.be optimistic.